I was asked to write a few words about my experience, strength and hope with Step 10. To be honest, this is not my favorite step. In fact, it is the step I work most imperfectly of the twelve. So perhaps I received this assignment so that I can learn and grow in working Step 10.
My sponsor and I meet about once a week for an hour and attend a meeting together. She has me read each step in the Big Book and in the OA and AA 12×12 books. We recently worked on Step 10. I am pretty good at admitting my wrongs promptly, but it is harder for me to be consistent about taking personal inventory. It has taken a lot of willingness for me to be open to working more on this step.
The Big Book outlines some questions we can ask ourselves at the end of the day. This may be done mentally or in writing. At our OA convention September 9-11, I received a list of questions and a simple checklist for each day of the week.
Was I selfish?
Was I dishonest?
Was I resentful?
Was I afraid?
Did I ask my Higher Power for help?
Did I talk to another OA?
Did I help someone?
Do I owe an apology?
Have I kept something to myself which should be discussed with someone else?
Was I kind and loving?
Did I blame anyone else for my actions today?
Was I abstinent?
This is a very helpful list. I hope that you will consider answering these questions for yourself and that they inspire you to work Step 10 on a daily basis.
Another way to work Step 10 is the AEIOU method. These can be done on the phone with your sponsor daily, written, or in your head.
A: Was I abstinent?
E: Did I exercise?
I: What did I do today for myself?
O: What did I do today for others?
U: What unfinished business or underlying issues do I need to deal with?
Y: YAHOO!!! What 5 things am I grateful for today?
This is a quick and easy way to take daily inventory. I hope that these suggestions are beneficial to your program.
Originally published in the October, 2016 Heart of Texas OA Newsletter